There are SO many ways to find your way to a healthier way of thinking about yourself and the world around you, it all starts within you. We always wait for our environment and people within it to tell us how to act, how to feel etc. But it’s totally backwards! It starts within YOU. Sometimes that’s hard because our whole lives we’re told what we think/feel is wrong, so it makes us questions ourselves. I challenge you to find YOUR identity-not who your parents think you should be, how your teachers tell you to act etc. , how your boyfriend (or girlfriend) wants you to act , but how YOU truly feel. We all think we know how we feel but do we? Our minds and spirits are such complicated things that it’s okay to need help and guidance in this department. I know I do! We don’t have all the answers, and that’s okay! If you’re really feeling lost and in need of guidance out of depression and/or anxiety, seeing a licensed therapist or psychiatrist can be a wonderful starting point. And no, therapy isn’t just for “crazies” or people with severe issues, I think everyone should see a therapist! The human mind is a complicated thing to try to figure out, so why not have some help and guidance with it! I love this article on the blog XOJANE that talks you through how to find a therapist on your own.  It’s really down to earth and simple. http://www.xojane.com/healthy/how-to-find-good-therapist There are other things you can do on your own that help you to know yourself better and, as a result, make better life choices for you specifically. Better life choices, once you give them a chance to take effect, always seem to lead to greater happiness and fulfillment, they do for me, I hope they do for you!



This Beach Bum loves her fun in the sun, but I also know that too much of anything is usually not good.  But I’m a Cali girl and will probably never get the idea that sexy beauty includes a tan out of my head, but how can you blame me?  It’s where I’m from! I’ve learned that it’s ALL about balance; some sun does give you that healthy glow and is even good for your body as it gives you much-needed vitamin D. But on the other hand, you don’t want to turn into a “Tanorexic” and overdo it, your skin will NOT be very happy with you! And burns= sun damage! So how does a California girl living in New York keep her California glow and stay healthy at the same time?  I love using JERGENS NATURAL GLOW LOTION almost every day.  It is definitely a staple in my life.  I get that golden glow I’m looking for without worrying about skin damage.

Okay, I’m a plus size model. Not exactly breaking news right? But I’m amazed at how many people are confused by what that means. Some people think that I’m all about “making friends with fat”, or promoting obesity, or in some other way supporting the idea that being overweight is a good thing. That’s not my message nor is it my life at all. What I care about more than anything is being healthy. We all have different bodies, different builds and different weights at which our bodies naturally do best. I’m 5’11” and a size 12. For me, that’s a healthy body shape. I know its healthy because I get annual checkups, get blood tests, have my vital signs examined… the whole nine yards. And my body is running well, thanks to a healthy diet and lots of exercise. If I wanted to be a “straight size” model, I’d have to do very unhealthy things to my body to get there. So guess what? I’m not a “straight size” model and that’s OKAY. No use trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. That’s a total recipe for frustration and ruining my self-esteem. No Thanks! There are plenty of other things to work on in this lifetime! I’m sure you’ve heard this before: accept your body as it is, don’t fight it, and make it the healthiest you can! I always knew I’d never look like Kate Moss, but at my healthiest I can strive for Beyoncé! And I’m perfectly happy with that. Find a REALISTIC goal for yourself. That’s the healthy mind part of the equation; you have to think in a realistic way in order to steer yourself in the right direction with your physical health. That’s the lesson I live by. It starts with your mind and a healthy mind IS a healthy body, they go hand in hand. But accepting my body and that I’m not a size 0 doesn’t mean that I’m in favor of sitting around eating food filled with junk. But don’t deprive yourself either! If you want a cookie have one, just not the whole sleeve!  In other words, my message is, eat healthy in moderation, exercise sufficiently and let the chips (not potato chips) fall where they may. It’s so simple, why do we complicate it?! 


Whitney Houston sang about wondering how she’d know if a guy really loved her. I think I’m a little behind the curve. I’m not sure if a guy is really DATING me! Everyone is so into going out in groups (less pressure I guess?),and if it’s one on one guys ask if I’d like to “hang out”, it’s impossible to tell if I’m on a date and a guy is into me until the date is over and he lunges in for a kiss. Or the “Non-date Date” I don’t want to assume if a guy asks to “hang out” that he’s asking me out on a date (this goes back to the whole guys and girls just being friends thing). But at the same time don’t want to be caught off guard. What constitutes a “date” and how do you know when you’re on one? Enough already, dudes-get some game! There’s so much confusing stuff to figure out in this world (how the elections will turn out, if North Korea is really a threat, if Ben&Jerry’s will ever bring back “mission to marzipan”) it would be AWESOME if you could give us girls a break and just say “would you like to go on a date?”. I guarantee your success rate with the ladies will skyrocket. Am I right? Or… is this just me?!