Nice to meet you!

For those of you that know me, and those that don’t, I am a model in the plus size industry and an advocate for Body Diversity. I am currently on a mission to find others like me with strong minds and big hearts, interested in bringing about a new beauty revolution. The greatest way to influence change is to do something about it! It’s time to take action.  All the lessons I’ve learned through friends, romantic relationships and the industry are my fuel to inspire a new conversation. The lessons we learn in life will either make or break you… and they broke me for a bit… but now, 3 years later, I’m turning it around.

We find out at a young age that first impressions are defined by how we look. I have to agree that first impressions are important, but that shouldn’t be the end all. Being in the fashion industry has forced me to take an in depth look at these superficial ideals and at myself.  I have come to the conclusion that in order to have any sense fulfillment in life we have to learn to redefine what beauty IS . We should always look deeper at a person’s character, actions and behaviors. Wouldn’t that provide us with a deeper sense of connection? We won’t stand a chance if we are always judging each other and ourselves! The judgment can stop with one person at a time changing a negative thought or idea.

Being a model I have personally struggled with the issue of people making assumptions about me solely based on my looks. I am very fortunate to be able to do what I love, but the career path I have chosen does comes with a price. I have seen too many girls and guys, including myself lose their sense of identity.

It’s time for me to take all of my experiences, and the tough but important lessons I have learned, to share and grow with other people who can relate and be inspired by my journey. I feel honored to have the opportunity to encourage change and instigate a rebellious conversation about beauty. Accept my invitation to join me on this quest!

Anxiety.

Okay, this one’s about anxiety. I KNOW this is a really common feeling, buthow much life experience do I have to collect before I can stop waiting for the other shoe to drop when something good happens to me?! I’d do anything to known the secret to turning that particularly crazy off in my head.

I’m trying to prioritize myself without being a jerk and ignoring other people’s needs. Difficult trick to pull off right? Growing up, I always felt an overwhelming obligation to other people, so much so that I had forgotten about myself, and MY needs. Now that I’m an adult, I can acknowledge that obligation doesn’t exist unless I want it to. But I struggle- all the time with pleasing other people. Why is that?

Same stages different ages….

Like everyone else in their twenties, I’m always wondering what I’ll be when I “grow up”. I’m a model and speaker now, but what do I want to be five years from now? Do I want to grow my music career? Do I want to teach? Thinking about this makes me a little panicky sometimes because I’m terrified of making the wrong choice or coming up with the wrong answer! When I tell my mom or any other women who are older than me about this they either laugh, shake their heads or some combination of the two. Apparently, this wondering doesn’t go away. Everyone is always wondering what their next reinvention should be and if they can do it or not. One of my mom’s friends said that she expects to do a total life overhaul every five years. If it doesn’t happen, that’s fine. But when she’s feeling restless it doesn’t take her by surprise anymore. Do you have an idea of what your different stages might be? I’m working on my new five-year plan now. Tell me what yours is!