For those of you that know me, and those that don’t, I am a model in the plus size industry and an advocate for Body Diversity. I am currently on a mission to find others like me with strong minds and big hearts, interested in bringing about a new beauty revolution. The greatest way to influence change is to do something about it! It’s time to take action. All the lessons I’ve learned through friends, romantic relationships and the industry are my fuel to inspire a new conversation. The lessons we learn in life will either make or break you… and they broke me for a bit… but now, 3 years later, I’m turning it around.
We find out at a young age that first impressions are defined by how we look. I have to agree that first impressions are important, but that shouldn’t be the end all. Being in the fashion industry has forced me to take an in depth look at these superficial ideals and at myself. I have come to the conclusion that in order to have any sense fulfillment in life we have to learn to redefine what beauty IS . We should always look deeper at a person’s character, actions and behaviors. Wouldn’t that provide us with a deeper sense of connection? We won’t stand a chance if we are always judging each other and ourselves! The judgment can stop with one person at a time changing a negative thought or idea.
Being a model I have personally struggled with the issue of people making assumptions about me solely based on my looks. I am very fortunate to be able to do what I love, but the career path I have chosen does comes with a price. I have seen too many girls and guys, including myself lose their sense of identity.
It’s time for me to take all of my experiences, and the tough but important lessons I have learned, to share and grow with other people who can relate and be inspired by my journey. I feel honored to have the opportunity to encourage change and instigate a rebellious conversation about beauty. Accept my invitation to join me on this quest!
I have found some of my most exhilarating moments of self-expression and self-knowledge while writing songs and singing. That’s my favorite creative outlet. I’ve always known that music is my thing but I was a little shy about doing something that is so public. You can’t practice singing without anyone hearing you! And living in an apartment you KNOW the next-door neighbor is enjoying the listening session! But I got over it and now, to some degree, music keeps me sane. There’s no way to know exactly what the perfect outlet is for you to express yourself unless you try a whole bunch of things. Eventually something will click. Maybe you’re the next Annie Liebowitz or Sarah Silverman? Who knows? You won’t until you try, fail, try again, and finally hit on what makes you feel most like YOU. If it feels good, go with it!
A really good friend of mine introduced me to the book THE ARTISTS WAY https://goo.gl/AsWNG2 a few years back and it LITERALLY changed my life. It’s an amazing guide to tapping into your inner voice, the core of who you are, whether you want to be a professional artist or just get in touch with yourself. Whether you want to paint, sing, write, or be a lawyer doesn’t matter; what matters is that you’re opening yourself up to a new way of expressing yourself. When that happens, you’ll be shocked at what you have to say that you’ve never known was ready to come out of you! It’s my personal go-to guide. Whenever I feel disconnected: from myself, from the world, it’s the perfect tool I use to get back on track.
There are SO many ways to find your way to a healthier way of thinking about yourself and the world around you, it all starts within you. We always wait for our environment and people within it to tell us how to act, how to feel etc. But it’s totally backwards! It starts within YOU. Sometimes that’s hard because our whole lives we’re told what we think/feel is wrong, so it makes us questions ourselves. I challenge you to find YOUR identity-not who your parents think you should be, how your teachers tell you to act etc. , how your boyfriend (or girlfriend) wants you to act , but how YOU truly feel. We all think we know how we feel but do we? Our minds and spirits are such complicated things that it’s okay to need help and guidance in this department. I know I do! We don’t have all the answers, and that’s okay! If you’re really feeling lost and in need of guidance out of depression and/or anxiety, seeing a licensed therapist or psychiatrist can be a wonderful starting point. And no, therapy isn’t just for “crazies” or people with severe issues, I think everyone should see a therapist! The human mind is a complicated thing to try to figure out, so why not have some help and guidance with it! I love this article on the blog XOJANE that talks you through how to find a therapist on your own. It’s really down to earth and simple. http://www.xojane.com/healthy/how-to-find-good-therapist There are other things you can do on your own that help you to know yourself better and, as a result, make better life choices for you specifically. Better life choices, once you give them a chance to take effect, always seem to lead to greater happiness and fulfillment, they do for me, I hope they do for you!